Category: Mental Health

How I see things:
Often I find my perspective is rather different than other people's. My stories aren't heterosexual, even if it appears to be a man and woman engaged in some interaction. "Sex" to me isn't just "penis goes into vagina." My focus is polyamorous and queer. Gender and sexual orientations and presentations are individual to any given character. Behavior also doesn't predict or determine gender or sexuality- I may appear a heterosexual, monogamously married woman, but I'm queer and polyamorous. What is humiliating to one person isn't necessarily humiliating in general. We need to look past taboos and consider the human interaction in any kink. Naming, especially when a person takes a new name because of some factor in her/his/hir life, is a sacred thing. The Queen, from Vala's story, doesn't care about the fact that a queen is usually a female; it's doesn't determine his gender identity- he is a cisgender man who uses he/him/his pronouns.

6/28/2018 0 Comments

“I'm so messed up” or reclaiming slurs?

While I have posts written ahead, scheduled even, through July, I wanted to get this post started while it was fresh in my head. I just saw my med manager, who questioned when I said, “I'm so messed up.” Her comments went to the notion of everything I've survived and I'm still here; I admit, my first thoughts about statements like “I'm so messed up” are usually of the dark sarcasm sort. As she was walking me back to the lobby, she commented about all sorts of people need help.

Now later and pondering the appointment, including telling my daughter and Master about it, I'm thinking wider about mental health, disability activism/culture, and reclaiming slurs.

After all, reclaiming slurs was the heart of my point about the people in my household- it feels like we're all in a place where “reclaiming slurs” related to the issues we have is okay. When my Master jokes that I'm crazy, I hear the affection meant in His joke, that He accepts me as I am, not as “society” or my mother might want me to be; I don't take it as unkind because He admits that He doesn't function in ways that are considered “good” or “mainstream” often enough.

Is the statement “I'm so messed up” inherently negative? I really don't know if it falls under the idea of “reclaimed slur,” but it doesn't feel inherently negative to me. While I can talk about how I've survived so much, when talking about my challenges, does saying “challenges” and using terms like “neurodivergent” really change my statement so much? Is “I'm so neurodivergent” merely pretty up the phrase so it isn't so uncomfortable for others to hear? Okay, typing “hear,” my mind's now going with, “I should ask my D/deaf friends if the words mean so much in ASL/written communication.

“I'm so messed up.” “I'm so neurodivergent.” Maybe it's a matter of register or situation. Although, now I look at what I typed, I'm not sure that “I'm so neurodivergent” makes sense in the way in the same way.

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3/18/2018 0 Comments

I swear I'm around!

Sorry I've been distant. Still recovering from a bad depression and finally getting in to see a psychiatrist. I had to test a text color thing for tomorrow's blog post. I'm doing #MasturbationMonday tomorrow. Woot! I am slowly working on "Typing My Love"- started during Nanowrimo 2017; I'm thinking to do Camp Nano in April so I have it and Maren Smith's 100 Day Writing Challenge to encourage writing.

I came out as non-binary, agender! Well, I've figured agender also feels right, but the reality that I'm non-binary came first. I need to put together the two parts of a vlog showing my hair transition. Hopefully I get about that soon.

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