Talking with Happy
When I was planning for stuff before Nanowrimo, I noticed that November 1st falls on a Wednesday this year. Ha! So I went into "But I won't have a snippet to share without breaking Nanowrimo rules!" And then I remembered that Happy still hadn't shared pronouns. And this happened (Happy's comments are in italics)...
Okay, Happy. Thanks for waiting until I got somewhere I could put my AlphaSmart down. You're white then? Blond and blue eyed?
Full of privilege until someone sees my non-normative looks. Well?
Well what? You know exactly what this is about! You told me you're non-binary but you're not giving me your pronouns. Or if you could be my Autistic character.
You had to be a smartass. Care to answer either question?
Not so fast. Yes, I'm non-binary. My hippy parents suggested the name when it felt time to come out as non-binary when I left the commune they're still living on where gender and gender expression didn't matter. I was born with blond hair, but I've had neon blue hair for several years now. I'm tall and I've been told that I'm willowy. I tend to wear robes most often, leftover habit from my childhood.
Establishing your non-binary cred? Saying that you have a typical androgynous look, like Ruby Rose? Does ze, hir, hirs suit you?
Ugh! Hirs...suit! No, I'm not hairy. Sorry, lame word play. Do you suggest ze and its conjugations because you're most familiar with it and you're offline at the moment?
Possibly, although it was mostly my first suggestion. Are you parsing thoughts or do you really dislike ze?
Ze is interesting. Might we experiment with my pronouns though? What if I'm not actually settled on a pronoun that feels right?
We could do that. I have to wonder though- are you thinking to go on Tumblr pages of pronouns that make even me scratch my head?
What did you vent today about "keep it simple"?
I know. I know. However I'm also thinking as an author; I know times I've experimented with a neopronoun set, or planned to, that the experiment ended fast. I'm not sure how respectful that is of any non-binary person. And yes, my "is this too special snowflake?" is coming up. You have to admit that you and your fellow partners are all several steps away from the mainstream.
Ah, and there you are at considering which one of us is Autistic. All of us fit your precious Vala's "Not a poster child any movement would want." Like could I be Autistic and my pronoun pondering would be like your own gender quandary?
Of course you're right. For some reason Ziba keeps coming to mind as the possible Autistic, but then I struggle to figure out the intersections of being Muslim, bisexual, and Autistic.
And me wanting to experiment with neopronouns leads you to considering if that reflects poorly on the Autistic community? Think of the Facebook pages you follow though.
Do you like what I'm seeing of your first scene?
Ha, yeah. Here's hoping by the time this has gone live on your website, you'll have gotten at least that post written.
I spent some time writing special scenes in "Two Houses" and then realized I'd already shared a post about Teal meeting Bea's parents. Trying to decide what to do for this week and next on #WipItUpWednesday, I thought of sharing Nano-prep. On my Facebook timeline, I shared the 4 names I've come up with the quad relationship that's going to be my romance in November. Btw, I haven't figured out who of these 4 might be my Autistic character, although one of them will be. I also haven't figured out who I'm going to introduce to my characters first.
IOVITA m&f Ancient Roman
Latin masculine and feminine form of JOVITA. From the name Jove. She has a midpoint clitorophallus but identifies as cisgender, not intergender
HAPPY f&m English (Rare)
From the English word,happy. Not their deadname, although hippy parents suggested it. Non-binary
MAIRÉAD f Irish
Irish form of MARGARET. Pearl. Her nickname would be Mysie. Transgender woman who has had vaginoplasty and an orchie, but HRT produced small breasts that she likes. She still takes estrogen even though she doesn't have to take an androgen blocker anymore.
ZIBA (1)f Persian
Means "beautiful" in Persian. Muslim bisexual hijabi woman. She enjoys breaking stereotypes of hijabis.