Non-binary transition

How I see things:
Often I find my perspective is rather different than other people's. My stories aren't heterosexual, even if it appears to be a man and woman engaged in some interaction. "Sex" to me isn't just "penis goes into vagina." My focus is polyamorous and queer. Gender and sexual orientations and presentations are individual to any given character. Behavior also doesn't predict or determine gender or sexuality- I may appear a heterosexual, monogamously married woman, but I'm queer and polyamorous. What is humiliating to one person isn't necessarily humiliating in general. We need to look past taboos and consider the human interaction in any kink. Naming, especially when a person takes a new name because of some factor in her/his/hir life, is a sacred thing. The Queen, from Vala's story, doesn't care about the fact that a queen is usually a female; it's doesn't determine his gender identity- he is a cisgender man who uses he/him/his pronouns.

4/22/2018 12 Comments

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Click on the Non-binary Pride Flag I created in Paint for a Non-binary 101 article :)

I mentioned the Rainbow Snippets hop here in my post yesterday; I didn't make it the #RainbowSnippets post though because it was well over 6 lines long. I was thinking about how overwhelming similarities of the non-binary vloggers on YouTube made me think I couldn't come out as non-binary. I wrote a short poem of thoughts for this hop.
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My non-binary transition is mine
… not to be confused with anyone else's, even a character of mine.
Happy changed joys name; I'm okay with mine.
Mandisa changed their pronouns; I'm pronoun indifferent.
Mairead, Iven, and Tonya changed part of their genitals
… I just want to wear a chest binder sometimes.
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To a bunch more great LGBTQIA+ fiction and book recs, check out the Rainbow Snippets group on Facebook. And if you're beyond needing a 101 on non-binary gender as I am, here's an article by Sam Dylan Finch that I enjoyed today.

12 Comments

K.S.Trenten link

4/22/2018 01:24:43 pm

Great to get to read a poem for a change! Beautiful, powerful and contrasting imagery!

Joelle Casteel

4/22/2018 06:45:01 pm

Thanks :)

JL Merrow link

4/22/2018 05:02:21 pm

Great poem - and a great reminder that everyone's different.

Joelle Casteel

4/22/2018 06:45:30 pm

Thank you for the comment

Addison Albright link

4/22/2018 08:09:19 pm

Love this. We can't hear this enough. 💕

Joelle Casteel

4/22/2018 09:22:53 pm

Thanks :) I figure, if I needed to hear this and didn't see anything like it until I started posting in groups. I couldn't imagine a person of 40 years like me coming out as non-binary because we are hardly showed.

Cheryl Headford link

4/23/2018 06:02:15 am

I was 50 before I even recognized what was going on let alone put a name to it and admitted it even to myself. This is a great poem and really struck a nerve

Joelle Casteel

4/23/2018 08:48:28 pm

Thanks, Cheryl.

Jackie Keswick link

4/27/2018 11:58:27 am

I have a deep-seated dislike of labels, but I have to accept that using existing labels help some of us make sense of the world and our place in it. I love how you're
showing that labels are only really meaningful on an individual level - and not everyone uses them the same way.

Joelle Casteel

4/29/2018 10:27:17 pm

Thanks. Being on the Autism Spectrum, I'm fairly dependent on labels for relating to my world, but they can be limiting.

Brenda Murphy link

4/28/2018 12:07:10 pm

Fantastic! We all need to be reminded of we each can be who we are and it’s fine for others to be wwho they are.

Joelle Casteel

4/29/2018 10:28:26 pm

Yup, thanks, for the comment, Brenda.

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